People Feel Better About Pornography When It’s Educational


There are all kinds of theories about what watching pornography might do to a person. Some of those theories are positive, some are less so. But there’s one thing that studies agree on: People are more likely to think watching porn will affect others negatively more than it will affect themselves negatively.

porn_1536108cThis is not, to be clear, saying that there are established negative effects associated with watching porn (that’s a whole other debate). It simply means that one person is more likely to assume that any negative effects that might exist apply far more to someone else, than to himself. The neighbor watching porn? A heathen. You watching porn? A regular Wednesday night. This is a well documented phenomenon in sex research, but recent work suggests that it doesn’t hold up for a particular type of pornography: instructional porn.

Yes, instructional porn really is just what it sounds like. According to Katrina L. Pariera, the George Washington University researcher behind this new study, “Instructional pornography includes explicit adult films designed to arouse and instruct couples or individuals in sexual matters,” she wrote in a recently published paper. This kind of porn has titles like The Expert Guide to Positions,The Ultimate Guide to Sexual Pleasure, and Tristan Taormino’s Expert Guide To Advanced Fellatio. (Instructional pornography always seem to be either expert or ultimate.) These are how-to manuals, guides, roadmaps to pleasure, sex for dummies. And many of the free porn sites online like YouPorn and PornHub and XVideo have an instructional tag where these videos live.

Essentially, instructional pornography is meant to educate first, titillate second. Viewers should come away knowing a bit more about how to please themselves or their partners. Which got Pariera to wondering whether previous academic work about perceptions of porn viewers might have been missing something by treating all porn equally. Do people truly perceive all kinds of pornography the same way? Is something more banal, or even instructional, filed into the same cabinet in our minds as something kinkier or more aggressive?

The experiment she did involved a little bit of lying, as many experiments do. The subjects were told that they were there to help develop a new adult-movie rating system. As part of the development of that new system, they were instructed that their opinions on how certain movies would affect others were important. They were then asked to consider eight DVD covers, along with a paragraph summary of each one. Two of those were instructional adult films (things like Matt and Khym: Better Than Ever and Turn Ons!: How to Please Your Partner), two were non-instructional adult films (including Superman XXX: A Porn Parody, and Audrey: Sexual Freak 8), and two were mainstream movies (The Matrix and Slumdog Millionaire). After looking at each, the participants were asked how they thought someone might be impacted by watching the DVD in question. (They were not asked how much that same someone might enjoy the DVD, only how it might impact them.)

When Pariera looked at the results, she saw a striking difference between how people thought about instructional and non-instructional pornography.

The usual perception of pornography being worse for someone else was flipped. People actually thought that viewing instructional porn had the same impact on adults (both men and women) as watching The Matrix did. Which is to say, no real effect. And, unlike non-instructional pornography, there was no difference in how men and women felt about it. (When asked about pornography more broadly, women tend to be more likely to perceive negative impacts than men are.) In other words, “instructional pornography was rated as having a mostly positive effect, suggesting the genre is perceived as somewhat socially desirable.”

Instructional sexual education seems to be on the rise, as places like Babeland and Moregasm try to take the stigma out of adult sex-ed. Babeland, a sex shop and education center with several locations in New York City and Seattle, offers classes on blow jobs, positions, and just general “hot sex.” And if this new research is right, it might be more palatable for people to think about instructional erotica over the kind that exists simply as pleasure for pleasure’s sake.

Always Masturbate Before a Holiday Party


If you’re looking for love this holiday season, one expert says you should make sure to “love your body” before you step under the mistletoe, otherwise you’re just going to get hurt. (Possibly have an orgasm before it happens, but definitely hurt after) (Sooo hurt.)

azmgiyfsswg57t8htnlyLucy Beresford, a psychotherapist, has written a new book about love, life and relationships and, she says, one of the most important things you can do to avoid pain during this festive time of year is touch yourself in the bath before leaving the house. Why? because it will bring your “libido down a few notches” and allow you to make clear decisions about whether you want to have sex with that tall, dark stranger you just met at the party (who may also not be a tall, dark stranger at all once the beer goggles come off). Beresford says you should always resist, because dudes in holiday sweaters only one want one thing: Your special frosted cookies. (That is not a good euphemism for genitals, is it?)

From Cosmo UK:

Respect Your Vagina

By respecting this precious part of your body, you treat yourself with respect too. After all, sex is not a numbers game. It’s bigger and better than that. So even though you’re experiencing tons of sexual tension, keep a clear head and conduct some subtle research on the night to see if he has other ‘attachments’ (wife / alcohol / kids) which will stop him putting you first beyond tonight. Treating your vagina as a precious possession means you become much more discerning about who gets to have fun with it – and with you.

So, if you want long-term love don’t have short-term sex, says one person who is promoting her book. I don’t know if that’s true, but I am always going to support suggestions for aggressive masturbation, so I agree with Beresford there. Although I will say that having short-term sex and one-night stands is not an explicit “disrespect” of one’s vagina.

I will also tell you this: There is nothing more romantic than someone telling you that they masturbated before they came to see you. At least if you’re 18 years old and meeting some dude from the internet for the first time. “I did that thing they talked about in Something About Mary,” he said, and I melted. So maybe Beresford is right about some things. Love yourself before you go for that meat platter!

Masturbating Passenger Causes Premature Landing For Virgin Flight


The premature landing came about after the Bay Area man, seen wearing a hospital bracelet, got into an argument with a fellow-passenger and eventually attempted to exit the plane through an emergency door, according to KNBC.

Boston police officers were aboard the flight and reportedly apprehended the man as the plane — bound for Los Angeles from Boston — made an unscheduled landing in Nebraska.

One fellow passenger filmed the cops escorting the handcuffed man off the plane.

Apparently there might be some sex in the Champagne Room


A woman arrested in connection with a prostitution ring has been sentenced to probation.

PMargaret-Pahssener a plea agreement, Judge Dean Fink sentenced Margaret Pahssen, 36, to nine months of supervised probation for facilitation to commit illegal control of an enterprise.

Pahssen and others were arrested in January 2013 after Phoenix police served search warrants at the Champagne Room near 40th Street and Interstate 10 and a home in Surprise.

Although billed as a 24-hour strip club, police said the business was a house of prostitution where customers would enter, be taken to a back room and be given a “menu” to select from a list of services.

Police began a two-year investigation after receiving complaints from nearby business owners. Police said the investigation took such a long time because the owners of the Champagne Room took precautions to avoid allowing undercover agents to enter their establishment.

Police arrested several other people on charges including control of an illegal enterprise, money laundering, prostitution, receiving earnings of prostitution and pandering.

Female college student discovers that broadcasting online sex shows in the university library is considered “inappropriate use” of the facility


A UNIVERSITY student has been “counselled” after using campus resources to film a live solo sex show — and the library where the show was filmed had to be “steam cleaned”.

778599-d7f30f32-6eb7-11e4-aa26-f2e13a006c4dStaff at the University of Newcastle were tipped off the student was using the Auchmuty campus library to film and broadcast herself via live webcam shows.

It’s understood the show was promoted on Twitter, which then linked to a separate site where users had to pay to see the show.

She was eventually caught when staff were given a photograph of her and instructed to call security if she was seen.

Parts of the library where reportedly steam cleaned when university management became aware the show was filmed there.

A spokeswoman told the university was disappointed about the “inappropriate” use of internet facilities.

“We have a Code of Conduct that clearly outlines the sorts of behaviours the University expects from its community on campus.”

She said the student was “counselled” after the matter was investigated. But she would not reveal specific details, citing the student’s right to privacy.

“An important part of our duty of care is to protect our students’ privacy and it would be inappropriate for the University to provide specific details in relation to the incident.”

Live camera shows make money when “performers” charge a set rate per minute.

According to the Newcastle Herald, at the end of 2013 there were 171 University of Newcastle students registered to a specialist online dating website that matches students with a ‘‘sugar daddy’’ to fund their education.

You had me at ‘Sex Mountain’


IT’S an ancient tradition with thousands of pilgrims taking part each year.

Participants range from married men to housewives, government officials to prostitutes, all indulging in a mass ritual of adultery and sex.

367379-0f7fb008-6ebe-11e4-ae84-798920b22a79And all of this takes place in a small corner of the world’s largest Muslim majority country.

Welcome to Indonesia’s Sex Mountain.

SBS Dateline journalist Patrick Abboud was granted rare access to visit the ancient mountain and its religious sexual rituals.

Abboud told that thousands of Indonesian pilgrims travel across the archipelago to the Gunung Kemukus to take part in a religious ritual on an mountain top, believing sex out of wedlock at this holy site will bring them good luck and fortune.

Abboud said that the ancient ritual dates back to the 16th century, which in many ways goes against the law of Islam, especially sex out of wedlock, adding people were often reluctant to talk about it.

“It’s unique to Java — it’s an ancient Islamic Javanese tradition that happens every 35 days,” he said.

Legend has it that the ritual started when a young Indonesian Prince, Pangeran Samodro, had an affair with his stepmother.

They ran away and hid on Gunung Kemukus, but were caught and killed during sex and buried on top of the mountain in what is now an Islamic shrine.

Pilgrims believe having sex at the site will not only bring them good fortune but also wealth.

But Abboud reveals there is a catch.

For the magic to work and the wealth to take place, it’s believed the sex partner for the ritual should not be a spouse.

He also said pilgrims must also copulate on the mountain every 35 days, seven consecutive times.

“The majority are poor farmers and workers who believe visiting the site and having sex will bring them more success,” he said.

Abboud said many were also devout Muslims and the pilgrimage wasn’t just about sex.

First they visit a shrine to pray, then are washed in a sacred spring before prayers are held.

“It was really emotional watching lots of people praying,” he said.

“Once that’s over, pilgrims find a partner.”

But if you think it’s all married couples, think again, some men travel without their wives, helping spawn a burgeoning prostitution ring which the government turns a blind eye to because of the fee it charges pilgrims to visit the site.

Abboud said thousands of sex workers were at the site, and sexual health doctors he spoke to said diseases were rampart as many of the men didn’t want to wear condoms.

“It’s such a paradox, and it’s hard to make sense out of,” he said.

“It’s a strange snapshot of an Islamic ritual which really asks how it’s possible to exist given they are devout Muslims.”

Abboud added this ritual doesn’t take place anywhere else in Indonesia or the rest of the Muslim world and is a very Javanese blend of religious ideals — with Islamic, Hindu and Buddhist influences.